True words are not beautiful;
Beautiful words are not true.
A good man does not argue;
He who argues is not a good man.
A man who has virtue does not look for faults.
He who looks for faults has no virtue.
The sage does not accumulate anything
But gives everything to others.
Feeling he has more, he gives more.
Heaven is good to all,
Injuring no one.
The sage imitates it,
acting for good of all and opposing no one.
As I Understand It:
Authentic words, simply spoken, need no ornamentation. They feel good.
Argumentative and judgmental words agitate the mind.
Possessing people and accumulating things leave us hollow. The sage neither possesses nor accumulates. The more we give, the more we receive. We don’t know how, but it works!
Today, allow someone else to be right. If your ego surfaces, push it down. In a few minutes, the argument would be over and you’d feel good about yourself. The other person’s ego would boost, soon she would be arguing with someone else. What is it to you? This may seem different from how you have been handling your arguments. But this way of dealing with others brings peace.
Dyer, W. Wayne. Change Your Thought–Change Your Life: Living the Wisdom of the Tao. Hay House, Inc. 2007.
The Way of Lao Tzu (Tao-te Ching), Translated, with introductory essays, comments, and notes by Chan, Wing-Tsit. The Bobbs-Merrill Company, Inc. 1963.